Claire and I have been friends for a few years. My husband and I call her our ‘Angel’ as she reached out to us on the anniversary of the death of my husband’s son. She was brave enough to talk to us about Lohr, something which very few people have done since he died. We understand the feelings of the majority of people who don’t talk to us about Lohr as people do find it hard to know how to behaviour and what to talk about in these situations. (For context, see ‘What He left Behind’).
So as an ‘Angel’, Claire came into our lives in a deeper and more intimate way. We have enjoyed getting to know Claire and her family. Claire is super intelligent, loves reading including philosophy, has a masters degree and gave up a highly demanding job in the corporate world to be a stay-at-home mum. She bought her first house at the age of twenty-three. Now that school is out for the twelve week summer break, Claire is spending time, not only doing some articles for Once Upon A Wren, but also doing topic based teaching with her children whilst they are out of school.
Claire was the first person that I shared my blog with the exception of Luke Martin-Jones who gave me the courage to start writing again in the first place. Her positive response and encouragement gave me the nerve to share my blog with my family and with some other friends.
In one of our conversations, I brought up the new information that my friend, Olivia Hayward, had stumbled across regarding being a daughter of a narcissistic mother. It turned out that Claire had stumbled across the information the very same week! After I had persuaded Olivia to write for me, I had the idea that I should convince Claire to write for me too. I’m so very excited that Claire agreed to write for Once Upon A Wren.
These two women show different reactions to being parented by a narcissistic mother and their abilities to deal with that dysfunctional relationship. It will be interesting to be a part of some of their healing process.
As this is a very sensitive subject, Claire also opted to have a pseudonym and like, Olivia, a symbolic representation for her picture.
Welcome to Once Upon A Wren, Claire! We look forward to getting to know you and to learn from you in the future months.